A few years ago, when I would go to the beach, I would get stressed about what bathing suits I could wear that would hide my love handles. I NEVER looked forward to trips by the water, because I knew I would feel uncomfortable. My main thoughts were about which cover-up to buy that would be cute and flowy so I would feel confident about my body; enough at least to go onto the beach.
When I would get to the beach, I would be very content and happy sitting on my chair or towel. I didn’t move around with my husband much — I avoided walking into the water, walking on the shore, or doing anything that would require me to show my body; and as a result I resisted MOVING my body.
I would think, “Why can’t I just enjoy myself?” My husband grew up on the beach so I wanted to enjoy it for him, but it was really hard for me to authentically do this.
For us, things shifted when I started feeling more confident about my body.
This summer my husband and I went to the beach as much as we could, and with the beautiful weather, we were there a lot. I’m so thankful that I get to indulge in my husband’s love of the beach with him now.
I’ve been seeking out ways to be more active because I feel so much more free now and I have so much energy to burn — and it’s brought so much life and excitement to my relationship with my husband.
Because I’m not self-conscious AND I have so much more energy, I connect with my husband in so many new, fun ways — we love walking on the beach together, running into the water and diving into waves together, and playing paddleboard together.
It feels good to move around on the sand — it’s not something you do normally so it’s nice, because it’s different. It’s soft with so many textures, it’s warm, and it feels soothing and rejuvenating.
You have to check out this video of us playing paddleboard back and forth on the sand!
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In the video, I was purely focused on hitting the ball and having an amazing time with my husband — I wasn’t even thinking of how I looked in my bathing suit and I felt great. We had so much fun!
One day I came home and he had new bright bikinis delivered for me
A surprise from him! They were so cute and I couldn’t wait to wear them!
I love that he likes buying me bikinis and tells me that I look nice in them. . .!!
My husband told me, “I like how we do more stuff and stay on the beach longer now.” He reminisced about all the fun activities we’ve done this summer — kayaking, climbing to the top of a lighthouse, renting a sailboat and going speedboating!
We’ve found so many exciting new things to do together!
Being less self-conscious of my body AND having more energy has opened the door for me to enjoy the sand, beach and many other water-related leisure activities that I never used to enjoy!
How would being less self-conscious around your husband or partner help connect you more?
What can you do today to be less self-conscious and more confident around your husband or partner today?
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